Category: Inner game
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Should you wait for love?
There are different philosophies when it comes to finding love. When the subject of dating is brought up many people will say that you should just “let it happen naturally”. Pickup runs counter to this philosophy because it is about taking direct action to find love. This presents certain challenges but also gives the pickup…
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Walking separate ways
I don’t talk to girls passing me going opposite direction of me. If a girl is walking the other way then she is by definition heading in a different direction in her life. So you would not match.
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Am I too broken?
I know that this fear holds a lot of us men back. Society is critical of us all and men experience that criticism sometimes as an internal voice. You may worry that you have lost your temper too many times to be loveable. That is of course a lie and one good part of the…
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My advice on the friendzone
I’ll build on this in time but my advice is to accept her as just your friend and ask her to be your wing woman when you do pickup. I’ll go deeper in time but this approach has two benefits: But if you are in the friendzone I highly recommend just moving on to a…
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Be a cult boyfriend
So the song above is one of my favorites. It’s a hilarious song about a man lamenting that although most women aren’t attracted to him a few women become obsessed with him. That’s what a pickup artist should be. You shouldn’t be going out with every girl you talk to. If you are trying to…
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The joy of deep connection
My goal with pickup has never been quick sex although I have had some. The end game for me is to use pickup to find the most attractive long-term female partner I can. But ultimately I am more drawn to women for the sake of connection than for sexual pleasure. So a lot of my…
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Why do we fear loneliness?
In many cases dating is not done out of a desire to meet a certain type of person but rather as a way to escape the pain of loneliness. This is understandable because human connection is a need and you really can’t get away from it. But you also can’t get away from the need…
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Neediness and you – Inner Game 2
Neediness is one of the most unattractive traits an individual can possess. This is true not only in dating but in other relationships as well. Employees with little leverage often find themselves in a very needy position allowing their employers to exploit them. Men who have no idea what to do if their wife left…
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Cultivating healthy views of women
It’s all too easy to harbor negative views of the opposite sex. This is especially true if you’ve experienced a lot of rejection or have been hurt by a member of the opposite sex. In addition, humans bring their existing biases into every relationship. If you had an abusive mother for example you will struggle…
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The binomial distribution in dating
Dating has a pattern. You may have noticed it. You meet someone you like and you get to know her, then you either go further with the romance or you don’t. Often times the issue is simply talking to enough people to meet a woman who clicks with you. That’s hard. The Binomial distribution gives…
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Always be able to leave
it isn’t my responsibility to meet her emotional and social needs if she can’t meet my sexual needs. So a big part of why I am creating this website is because I am leaving a partner (let’s call her H – not her real initial of course) who I have fallen out of love with.…
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Confidence – Inner Game 1
Dating in general is an exercise in growing up and maturing as an adult. As you become more aware of who you are and more confident you will become more attractive. So how do you build confidence with women if you have not had success with them in your life? If you are used to…